That women are joining in the ongoing disassembling of my appearance is salient. Patriarchy is not men. Patriarchy is a system in which both women and men participate. It privileges, inter alia, the interests of boys and men over the bodily integrity, autonomy, and dignity of girls and women. It is subtle, insidious, and never more dangerous than when women passionately deny that they themselves are engaging in it. This abnormal obsession with women's faces and bodies has become so normal that we (I include myself at times-I absolutely fall for it still) have internalized patriarchy almost seamlessly. We are unable at times to identify ourselves as our own denigrating abusers, or as abusing other girls and women.Naturally, websites, bloggers and tweeters of the world cheered for a woman who was finally saying "Enough is enough!" And then they returned to their regularly scheduled celebrity gossip-fest programming.
The assault on our body image, the hypersexualization of girls and women and subsequent degradation of our sexuality as we walk through the decades, and the general incessant objectification is what this conversation allegedly about my face is really about.And that, as women—whether "everyday" or "celebrity"—the feeling that we are chastised if we age, and chastised even more if we try not to age, that there is no winning this game.
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